“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” I believe it was a quote made famous by former First Lady, Eleanor Roosevelt in the 1940s. Over 75 years old, and the quote is still just as relevant as it ever was.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Your permission. In other words, you have the power to make yourself feel the exact way you desire.
I was at a friend’s party a few weeks ago and realized this exact concept. Of course, the realization came after I had a few days to reflect on what I was feeling.
There was a female at the party who I got the sense didn’t like me. When I approached her, she quickly said hi but then turned her back on me. Whenever I would speak, I caught her almost rolling her eyes at the things I would say. She kept physical distance from me the entire time, and it wasn’t long before I felt unwanted in her presence.
Naturally, I started to judge. “Who does this girl think she is?” I thought to myself. “She really is a bitch.”
A few days later, I realized that I had unknowingly given this woman the permission to make me feel inferior.
Her behavior towards me was intimidating, and I became defensive because of my own feelings about myself.
When I am honest with myself, I can recognize my insecurities during that party. The woman who was rude to me—was someone well-known to the rest of the people at the party. Perhaps I was insecure about the fact that this was the first time I was around this new group of friends. I was self-conscious about myself to the point that I took her dismissal of me as valid.
How many times are we quick to feel dismissed, judged or even wronged by the way other people treat us?
This is not to say that people who behave this way aren’t at fault. The truth is that there are people out there who intentionally seek to hurt and abuse others.
However, the point is that WE have the ability to overcome those feelings of being insecure and inferior.
When we are honest with ourselves, we come to recognize that inferiority and incompetence are emotions granted by us, with OUR permission.
Becoming conscious has enabled me to take personal experiences like this one and reflect on the power that I have within me. Feelings of not measuring up, incompetence and failure are all mental constructs that we create in our own minds.
Imagine if we were all able to rise above the mental limitations we place on our self-worth, and truly step into our greatness?
The possibilities are endless, friends. WE HAVE THE POWER TO SAY NO to insecurity and incompetence. Because we all are worthy, valuable and incredible in our own unique ways—if we give ourselves the permission to believe it.
How have YOU inadvertently given someone the permission to make you feel incompetent or inferior? Share some thoughts in the comments below!
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