EP43: Exploring the role identities of parenthood w/McKenzie Rueger

EP43: Exploring the role identities of parenthood w/McKenzie Rueger

Being a working momma is tough; being the sole provider of your family adds in another level of complexity as well.

This week, we meet McKenzie Rueger who has recently taken on the role of main provider for her family of 4. McKenzie chats about the role identities of mother and fatherhood, generational differences of parenthood, and how working moms can truly go after what they want in their lives. Additional topics covered in this conversation include breastfeeding struggles, being a woman in the workforce, and asking for help as a mom. You’ll love McKenzie and her story!

Connect with McKenzie on Instagram @rowdybuncharuegers @beingonthegulf and her website www.beingonthegulf and Facebook @ McKenzie Rueger.

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EP42: Pushing past your FEAR

EP42: Pushing past your FEAR

Hands down- the #1 thing that comes up for ambitious moms is a FEAR that is challenging to move past.

This episode is specifically for the ambitious momma who still has some sort of fear that prevents her from living the life she deserves.

Hear from Candice as she shares how SHE is pushing past her fear this year to enable her to show up bigger, bolder and live fearlessly as an ambitious momma.

CATALYST FOR MOMS SUMMIT 2019

Tickets are now LIVE, and you have a chance to get a limited time discounted price by heading over to candicestenger.com/catalystformoms.

Discounted tickets will go live in May and be available for a limited time and you will only know by being on the email list.

What are you waiting for?! Head to bit.ly/catalystformoms  to sign up for the email list and receive the promo code!

Special thanks to our Sponsors:

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Mango Mortgage (www.mangomortgage.com, Facebook @Mango Mortgage, Instagram @mango.mortgage)

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MakeJoy Studio (@makejoystudio on IG; makejoystudio.com)

Connect with Candice

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EP39: Achieving harmony in #momlife and the naptime hustle w/ Ashley Richards

EP39: Achieving harmony in #momlife and the naptime hustle w/ Ashley Richards

You’ve heard about work life balance, work/life alignment… but how about work life harmony? It’s true, in motherhood finding that harmony in your work and home life is not always easy. Ashley Richards has found the harmony in her motherhood as a successful business owner and mompreneur.

Candice and Ashley chat about finding harmony in your #momlife and the naptime hustle– a time where Ashley encourages work-from-home-moms to pursue their passions while the children are down for naps. You can pursue your career goals while being a mom fulltime, and Ashley wants to encourage moms all over with this conversation.

Find out more about Ashley Richards on social media @ashleyrichardsaz on Instagram and Desert Moms Blog @desert_moms on IG; Desert Moms Blog on FB and www.desertmomsblog.com

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EP36: Being appreciative about difficult experiences in your motherhood

EP36: Being appreciative about difficult experiences in your motherhood

Have you ever stopped to be appreciative towards EVERY experience you’ve had– the good, bad, ugly? When in a tough or difficult experience, come back to this episode to remember WHY it’s important to be grateful for everything you go through.

Candice chats about the importance of being appreciative for every experience you go through. Learn how to view the experience as a lesson instead of a bad thing. Your ability to change your perspective and mindset makes all of the difference as a momma…listen in to find out HOW.

Catalyst for Moms Summit 2019 Presented by A Musing Momma

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Discounted tickets will go live April 28th, and be available for a limited time and you will only know by being on the email list.

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Becoming WHOLE means uncovering some hidden truths

One day in the near future, I will stand in my truth and proclaim that “I am worthy. I am enough.” The road to that day will be paved with challenges, triumphs, self-realizations and truths that I have to be willing to acknowledge and embrace. It’s going to take courage and belief in myself that I am doing what is best for me. I have to trust myself and trust the process, because Lord knows there will be challenges.

How can I expect to give my daughter the best of me if I myself am not whole? It’s a question that I was afraid to ask myself for the first 4 years of my daughter’s life.

Somewhere deep inside of my soul, was a longing to resolve anything that might stand in the way of giving my daughter 100% all of me.

The thing is, I had no idea what those unresolved matters were…but they were there. Like a shell’s hard layer, the unresolved issues were just one layer below.

They were there every time I refused to look myself in the mirror and love the woman I had become. Curves on my body that weren’t always there, wrinkles that would appear out of nowhere and a smile that I had a hard time accepting. It was there when I had second guesses about my own happiness and worth in my marriage with her father. It was there when I would cry myself to sleep in the middle of the night because I felt alone and dark. And it was also there when I would feel panic about my daughter finding out the ugly truth of my past…Those unresolved issues where there all along, but I was unwilling to accept them.

Instead, I spent the first 4 years of my daughter’s life ignoring the unresolved issues in my life. Blissfully unaware of the pain and ugliness that lived inside my soul.

Until the moment I realized that I was broken.

It was the night I crawled into bed with my daughter after an argument with my husband. I was upset. For so long, I thought the unhappiness came from my husband’s inability to show me appreciation. But, laying in the bed with my daughter and crying to her—I realized that it wasn’t my husband’s inability—rather MY own inability to love myself. Because, here I was crying on my four-year-old daughter’s shoulder—seeing the look of concern and worry in her little eyes while she was trying to console ME. I was broken. My daughter could see it…and that night—I could see it.

That was the night that I began the ascent into my awakening. My journey to finding out what was bothering ME. And why was I so upset and angry. I took pen to paper and began writing….

I started with my story. From the very beginning… and unleashed years of regret, anger, hurt, and pain that I had been ignoring since my early childhood.

It was empowering to recognize the feeling and emotions that I had not named before. I dove into hours of books, podcasts and genuine conversations to help me begin to become whole again. To fix those broken parts of me that were angry and upset all the time…

Since that night, I keep talking about my discovery of truths and emotional healing. When I was able to face my past and have the courage to question why I was hurt—a rush of relief washed over me.

I’m willing to bet we all have things that we need to heal from. Past hurts, heartbreaks and experiences that we try to hide from the outside world.

However, the moment you step into your truth and face your deepest soul aches is ultimately what will set you free and enable you to heal…thus, becoming whole.

Until then, I will keep writing…and soul searching…and learning from my past mistakes. And looking forward to the day where I can say and believe with all my heart that “I am enough.”


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A formal proclamation of perfection

A wise friend gave me an honest reflection the other night. “You are liked because you strive to be perfect…” It was a simple remark said to me that sent me knee-deep in contemplation. With perfection comes a dilemma— how can you strive to be “perfect” and authentic at the same time? Perfection is the very concept that I aim to destroy in our world of competition, comparison and vanity.

Thus, a real self-reflection commenced. I spent the entire next day reflecting on how I have spent my entire life striving to be perfect. I started with my morning drive to work…

“Candice, why the hell do you strive to be perfect?”

In all honesty, my friend was right. I strive for perfection in everything that I do. I recently planned an event for Project: Passion and gave myself a jaw ache with all the stress and anxiety I had during the last two weeks leading up to the event (apparently, I clench my teeth when I’m under a ton of stress, my dentist confirmed).

So, the question remains—WHY do I strive to be perfect? And how does that impact how I am as a mother?

If I trace my history back to childhood, I remember loving the spotlight. Whether it be on stage during a singing performance or a speech that I was elected to give in front of an audience. I thrived off all eyes being on me….why? Because I was good at it.

My ah-ha moment the other night was realizing that feedback has a lot to do with perfection.

Those who know me well know that I love asking for feedback. My ah-ha moment the other night was realizing that feedback has a lot to do with perfection. You see, when I feel confident that I’ve nailed a presentation or speech—I will intentionally ask for feedback because I’ll get validation of what I did well and what I didn’t—I use for the NEXT time I present, hence—striving for perfection.

So, let this be my formal proclamation—I am a perfectionist. And I still care about what other people think of me.

The next question—How will this affect my parenting?

If how act and treat others is a projection of how I view myself, then where will perfection shape how my daughter views herself? Will perfection become my kryptonite?

Perhaps, the awareness of my perfection tendencies is all that is needed to break the magic of the kryptonite. Imagine being able to look back on this moment when my daughter is older and making mistakes where I can pause and realize that mistakes are what make us human. What if this realization of perfection is exactly what was needed for me to stop it in it’s tracks?

I won’t know until the moment comes. Until then, I’ll keep calling myself out. And celebrating all of my flaws and missteps. I’ll embrace the not-so-perfect moments and revel in all it’s glory. To prove it, this post contains several “non-perfect” pictures taken recently. Embracing authenticity as I destroy the notion of perfection.  Maybe my daughter will catch on…


How do YOU handle the idea of perfection? Do YOU see it coming up in your daily life? How can we all learn to be more authentic and less perfect? Share some thoughts in the comments!

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