EP39: Achieving harmony in #momlife and the naptime hustle w/ Ashley Richards
You’ve heard about work life balance, work/life alignment… but how about work life harmony? It’s true, in motherhood finding that harmony in your work and home life is not always easy. Ashley Richards has found the harmony in her motherhood as a successful business owner and mompreneur.
Candice and Ashley chat about finding harmony in your #momlife and the naptime hustle– a time where Ashley encourages work-from-home-moms to pursue their passions while the children are down for naps. You can pursue your career goals while being a mom fulltime, and Ashley wants to encourage moms all over with this conversation.
What does setting boundaries look like in your motherhood? We’re so quick to set boundaries for our little ones– but when it comes down to it, do YOU have healthy boundaries set that you follow?
Candice talks about what it looks like to set healthy boundaries in your motherhood, especially when it comes to our usage of technology. Take the challenge that Candice throws out for setting ONE boundary in your motherhood… get accountability by posting your boundary to social media and tagging Candice @amusingmomma.
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During my time climbing the corporate ladder, I had my fair share of run-ins with other women who were catty, judgmental and two-faced. At least that’s how I viewed them a few years ago, when I was vying for a promotion in the company I worked for.
I remember hearing back from co-workers that a particular person was running my name through the dirt and sharing with others how unfit I was for the promotion. The crazy part is that this person was in fact someone who I had a lot of respect for and considered a friend at the time.
Despite it all, I got the promotion and still continued to be cordial with that woman for several years after.
The truth is–most women don’t support other women. And it pains me to recognize that I’ve fallen victim to this as well in my own life experiences.
Women are catty to each other. Women talk behind each other’s backs. Women are two-faced.
At least that’s what I thought up until the beginning of this year when I embarked on my journey with A Musing Momma.
You see, there is a movement of women empowerment out there striving to break the cycle of women versus women mentalities. We as women are magnificent and powerful, however we’re more powerful when we are working together.
There are two trending hashtags that I came across earlier this year– #communityovercompetition and #womensupportingwomen. To me, these phrases mean so much more to me than a trendy slogan you could put in the caption of your photo.
For me, community over competition is exactly what I envisioned when I set out to make connections with other mommas with A Musing Momma.
I strongly believe that there is enough success in the world to go around. That one person’s success doesn’t mean there is less for you. The possibilities are truly endless, and it makes sense for us women to lock arms and help each other up.
Women supporting other women is beautiful. It shows the confidence you have in your abilities to be the best version of yourself that you can be.
When I see women bashing other women, it’s more of a reflection of them than anything else. These women are battling things that no one can see, and they are projecting fears and insecurities out on others to make them feel more powerful.
Change is on the horizon. Women are waking up to the fact that we are better, stronger and more beautiful together.
Cheer on that momma who just breastfed her child for the first time. Give a high-five to the woman who is slaying in her career. Recognize that momma who is balancing everything so well from what you can see. When we can support and encourage each other, we empower one another.
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I picture her as that young ambitious six-year-old sitting in the front yard at a lemonade stand. You know the one. The kid who had all of the elaborate ideas and wanted more than any typical six-year-old would have imagined.
Although I never knew her back then, Sarah Moore has a strong entrepreneurial spirit that I feel so lucky to get to know through this project.
A high school English teacher by day, momma when she gets home, and creative writer by night—Sarah is on her way to success as she pursues her ultimate passion as an author and blogger.
On defining passion…
“[Passion] is that one small voice that won’t leave you alone…and it keeps you going even when you don’t want to.” To Sarah, passion is an urge that, no matter how hard she tried—she couldn’t ignore. In fact, Sarah mentioned that she’s started three different novels before she got to the one that she wanted to really write about. “I’ve even tried to avoid it sometimes, because it’s hard…to get into that book especially with a toddler running around, and that’s the reason I have the blog…”
She goes on to say, “I am not in an entrepreneurial field, and I keep coming back to [the fact that] I want to do something more, and teaching is a real intense job…and some people think I’m crazy for adding another thing to that, but it just brings me to life….and it won’t leave me alone.”
At what point did you know you were passionate about writing?
For Sarah, being a creative writer has been like a calling. It’s what she was meant to do. “Since I was a kid, I use to write stories…I use to tell stories, even if it wasn’t writing—I was involved in a lot of theater, I always had a vivid imagination, I would come up with these wild [stories] on my own—so whether I was writing it down or a little radio show I did as a little kid…no matter what medium I was using, I’ve always been interested in stories and other people’s experiences.” Sarah’s experience as a high school English teacher has helped her be able to hone in on her true passion for writing. “There would be times when I was teaching and giving a test, and a story would come to me and I just had to start writing it down.”
Being a working momma and wife, pursuing Sarah’s passion hasn’t always been easy. As most would expect, life responsibilities sometimes get in the way of being able to chase that passion. For Sarah, it was no different.
“Finding time and being creative in that time is an obstacle because once I come home, I want to give my full attention to my toddler.”
The challenge of time and balancing work/life balance is the biggest challenge for Sarah. Having a small amount of time in between weekend naps and running the household would create limited time for Sarah to be creative and work on her novel.
Having a strong support system is important for when the challenges become too hard to bear. “The biggest supporter, biggest cheerleader is my husband because even with all the stupid things I’ve tried [in the past], he’s always 100% supportive of each one of those things.”
At your inner core—who are you?
Defining who you are at your inner core takes some reflection inwardly. When asked the question, Sarah did not hesitate to provide an answer that really sheds like into the type of person she truly is. At her inner core, Sarah is a dreamer and creative thinker. “I am always somewhere in my imagination to think of a new idea trying to [make] a difference.” She goes on, “I want to make a difference. I want to help people and I dream to do that…I think my passion helps me with that.”
A novel in the making…
Sarah’s passion revolves around putting her creative imagination to work in a fictional novel that she is currently working on. Without giving away too much about it, the story will involve suspense, intrigue and a bit of history. “It’s weird when you put it out there—that you are writing—and it’s going so slow, but I am still sticking with it. It’s kinda like, ‘I’ve gotta do this,’ but it keeps me going…keeps me writing.”
Staying focused and intentional, Sarah has been working towards a lifetime dream of magnifying her creative side. While the future is never promised, Sarah embraces the pathway she has taken as a working momma and creative writer. “Just because I’m choosing right now to write this novel, to work my job and then blog—that doesn’t mean that’s where it’s going to stay.” Indeed, Sarah is headed down the path of truly chasing and living her passion.
About Sarah Moore
Sarah Moore is the blogger behind The Marlett Manuscript, an Ohio-based blog intended to highlight her love for non-toxic beauty and inspiration. Sarah is a full-time high school English teacher and military spouse with one 2-year-old daughter, Emilia—who is her “miracle baby”. After years of infertility, Sarah and husband became pregnant after IVF treatment and were even given low probability of a successful pregnancy. She uses her blog to document her journey as a mom and provide tips and things to make life easier as a working/career mom. You can find Sarah on Instagram @themarlettmanuscript and the blog at www.themarlettmanuscript.com
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I’ve had the privilege of working for some great leaders who have also become mentors to me. Reflecting on each manager who I’ve reported to, there are certain things that have really left a mark and shaped me into the leader I am today.
There’s Stella* who took a chance on me. I was a wide-eyed go-getter who had virtually no experience with cash handling or customer service, but still she saw something in me. What Stella taught me was discipline and process help to make your life an easier one. She was processed and had high standards. I will always remember the first time she had a talk with me about my poor performance. It was the only time she needed to have that discussion, because after that—I became her top performer.
There was Jessica* who taught me to go after what I want in life. I thought becoming a banker was out of my reach, but Jessica believed in me (before I even knew I had it in myself). Jessica taught me to look for what I want in life, and go all in—leaving the fear of failure behind. Because of Jessica, I’ve sought after other roles with the same enthusiasm I learned from her.
I’ll never forget the time I had working with Joe.* What I learned from Joe is priceless and applies to all aspects of my life, professionally and personally. Joe taught me what it means to be a leader who serves. He had a way to inspire people to become something bigger than themselves. I envied how Joe captured the room with just one phrase. He believed that if I wanted to move mountains, I would be able to do that. His authentic, REAL belief in me inspired me to step outside my comfort zone often and grow as a leader.
I had the pleasure to learn from John,* who is the ultimate dream chaser. He helped me understand that dreams are worth chasing. No matter what challenges get in your way (declines, lack of money, lack of perceived results, etc)—your dream is worth fighting for. John has since left the corporate world in pursuance of his lifelong dream and it’s fantastic to see him live out his dream today!
I’ve learned from Becky*as I refine my skills and development every day. Becky taught me the importance of focusing on self-development. I’ve learned that there’s always something to improve on in your current role, no matter the tenure you have.
You don’t ever know what type of impression you’ll leave on somebody, but it’s worth considering. What impression will YOU leave on people? As a leader, you have the unique opportunity to influence and inspire people. Here are some things you can do TODAY to evoke that inspiration:
Look for potential in individuals, and don’t be afraid to take a chance on them.
Believing wholeheartedly in them. Not just the “I believe you can do it,” kind of belief, but really believing the BEST of people.
Inspiring people to be a part of something bigger than themselves. Seek their opinions. Challenge their mindsets. Serve them. When you’ve got a team who is fully committed, the sky is the limit with what you can do from there!
Encourage them to find their dream and chase after it. Get to know their dreams, their passions. Encourage them to find passion in what they do every day!
*Names used with permission or changed to protect the privacy of the individual
What were some of the leadership lessons you’ve learned from past leaders? Does it shape you into the type of person/leader you are today? Share below in the comments!
Pre-child, 25 years old and a manager in a corporate setting. It was 2011 and I was asked this question in a meeting by my boss at the time.
“What’s your Why?” He challenged us to find our why with the idea that “If your why doesn’t make you cry….find another why.”
It was the first time I heard the “Why” concept and I was intrigued. My why?…What was my Why? How do I find my Why? And—How does that relate to what I’m doing here….in a Corporate setting?
I’m a rules-follower, list-checker type of person… so of course my natural instinct was to explore more of what this Why was and how I could find one. I read books like this one, or this one. Listened to TED talks. Even journaled a bit in search of what my Why was.
Was it my Husband? My family? Myself? I was on a search of finding something I could call my Why.
Finding my Why required much more than text book reading and hours of watching TED talks. Because, when my boss was asking us for our Why….what he was really asking us to do, is to search for our purpose.
Why do I work as hard as I do? What drives me? What keeps me motivated? What is my purpose?
What I’ve learned over the years is that your purpose—your WHY— requires a lifelong pursuit of intention. Being intentional in what you do with your purpose (and WHY) in mind.
It’s a simple question to consider—What is your Why? Because your Why will compel you to work harder, fight for what you want and have the endurance to tackle all of the challenges that life throws your way.
I’ll have to share my personal story of my WHY at a later time. But, for you…here are some tips and advice on what you can do to get closer to identifying your Why.
Imagine your life exactly how you want it—WHO is there? For many people, their Why is a person (or people) who are their biggest support system. When you’ve identified WHO you are working so hard for, it’s easier to keep that in mind as you face challenges on your pathway to your ideal future.
Speaking of which, what is your ideal future? Think of what you are striving for in life….is it happiness? Close relationships and friendships? Is it success? Consider those questions and reflect on what your ideal future looks like. WRITE IT DOWN. Writing down your ideal future will put you one step closer to actually achieving it.
Think of your legacy. What do you want to be known for? Spend some time reflecting on the legacy you want to leave behind when you leave this Earth. When you’ve defined how you want to be remembered, your daily actions become much more purposeful.
It’s a great time to begin reflecting and narrowing down what your WHY and TRUE purpose is. I challenge YOU to start defining your WHY.
What is YOUR WHY? I’d love to hear from you– Share in the comments below.
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