EP38: Set some boundaries, momma!

EP38: Set some boundaries, momma!

What does setting boundaries look like in your motherhood? We’re so quick to set boundaries for our little ones– but when it comes down to it, do YOU have healthy boundaries set that you follow?

Candice talks about what it looks like to set healthy boundaries in your motherhood, especially when it comes to our usage of technology. Take the challenge that Candice throws out for setting ONE boundary in your motherhood… get accountability by posting your boundary to social media and tagging Candice @amusingmomma. 

CATALYST FOR MOMS SUMMIT 2019

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Discounted tickets will go live in May and be available for a limited time and you will only know by being on the email list.

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EP36: Being appreciative about difficult experiences in your motherhood

EP36: Being appreciative about difficult experiences in your motherhood

Have you ever stopped to be appreciative towards EVERY experience you’ve had– the good, bad, ugly? When in a tough or difficult experience, come back to this episode to remember WHY it’s important to be grateful for everything you go through.

Candice chats about the importance of being appreciative for every experience you go through. Learn how to view the experience as a lesson instead of a bad thing. Your ability to change your perspective and mindset makes all of the difference as a momma…listen in to find out HOW.

Catalyst for Moms Summit 2019 Presented by A Musing Momma

Tickets are about to go LIVE, and you have a chance to get a limited time discounted price by heading over to bit.ly/catalystformoms and signing up for the email list.

Discounted tickets will go live April 28th, and be available for a limited time and you will only know by being on the email list.

What are you waiting for?! Head to bit.ly/catalystformoms now!

Special thanks to our Sponsors:

Genysis & Investment Properties (Facebook @Genysis Investment Properties)

Mango Mortgage (www.mangomortgage.com, Facebook @Mango Mortgage, Instagram @mango.mortgage)

Connect with Candice

all social media @amusingmomma

www.candicestenger.com/amusingmomma for all things A Musing Momma

EP34: The Unspoken World of Motherhood w/Sonnet + Veronica (Not your Mother’s Podcast)

EP34: The Unspoken World of Motherhood w/Sonnet + Veronica (Not Your Mother’s Podcast)

Asking yourself questions like, “am I doing this momma thing right,” “am I the only one feeling this way,” or even “what can I do to not FAIL my child” are some of the most typical questions that we ALL are asking ourselves, but….WHY DON’T WE TALK MORE OPENLY ABOUT IT? 

This week, we meet Sonnet Simmons and Veronica Frieling of Not your Mother’s Podcast as they share some of the most common unspoken moments of motherhood. Candice, Sonnet and Veronica tackle topics like the identity shift that you experience when you first become a mother, how to ‘rise to the occasion in your motherhood,’ and embracing where you are at as a mother. These ladies don’t fail to inspire as they share their own experiences as new mothers (both children under 2) and what they’ve come to learn as a result of their podcast.

Check out Not your Mother’s Podcast by heading to their site www.notyourmotherspodcast.co and on social media @sonnetmusic and @veronicamoralesfrieling and Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/notyourmotherspodcast.co/

Connect with Candice on social media @amusingmomma and on her website www.candicestenger.com

CATALYST FOR MOMS SUMMIT 2019 Presented by A Musing Momma

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EP30: What to do when your inner critic attacks you, momma

EP30: What to do when your inner critic attacks you, momma

You are constantly talking to yourself, momma. Have you stopped to reflect on the dialogue of negative self-talk that you’ve got brewing in your mind? You’d be surprised by how often you are putting yourself down.

Join Candice as she talks about what to do when you realize your inner voice is negative and doubt creeps into your mind. She gives three tips on how to overcome the challenge of negative self-talk, because…let’s be honest. It happens more often than we’d like to admit.

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Mommas–hurry up and SLOW DOWN

 

We were getting out of the car the other day; Eilynn had just told me about a gold star she received at school as a result of being the “Class Leader of the Day.” I was deep in thought—and wanted to let her know how proud I was of her.

I opened the car door, and simply said- “Hey Eilynn…remember…” I couldn’t even finish the sentence, because she cut me off quickly and said, “I know, I know mom…hurry up.” My heart dropped.

“Hurry up? That’s what she thought I wanted to say to her?” In that moment, I was genuinely ashamed.

Mommas, how many times, does that simple phrase “hurry up” become the main request when speaking to our children?

“Hurry up and put on your shoes”

“Hurry up so we can get on the road”

“Hurry up, we’re going to be late for school”

“Hurry up and finish your dinner”

It was then, that I suddenly realized my daughter’s perception of me was that of a momma who is always in a rush.

Seriously—what’s the rush, mommas? Why are we in such a hurry to speed through life?

And, let’s be honest here—it’s typical. I recently aired a podcast addressing this ever-so-busy lifestyle that we have all adopted. We are in a constant state of GO-GO-GO from the moment we wake up to begin our days. We all lead prosperous lives filled with endless work, meetings, after school activities, parent-teacher conferences—the list goes on and on. It’s no wonder why most mommas complain about not having enough time in the day.

But, what message is this teaching my daughter–when she thinks that she must always hurry up?

What happens when she hurries up through her homework and doesn’t even grasp the lesson it’s supposed to teach her? What happens when she hurries through a tough decision that she needs to make and instead acts on impulse or emotion? What happens when she grows into another adult who never stops to give herself time?

I don’t know about you—but I’m tired of living a life where I’m constantly bombarded with schedules, time constraints and burnout. SLOWING down and taking time might be good for the soul.

On the podcast episode I mentioned above, I brought up my “1 hour early” strategy for slowing down and being more present on a daily basis. That’s what I’m hoping to achieve in life… more time to myself to be intentional and present…and not always hurrying up.

I want to teach my daughter that there is so much of life missed by always hurrying through it.

Mommas, let’s hurry up and slow down.

CHECK OUT THAT PODCAST EPISODE HERE. 


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Give yourself permission to be GREAT

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” I believe it was a quote made famous by former First Lady, Eleanor Roosevelt in the 1940s. Over 75 years old, and the quote is still just as relevant as it ever was.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Your permission. In other words, you have the power to make yourself feel the exact way you desire.

I was at a friend’s party a few weeks ago and realized this exact concept. Of course, the realization came after I had a few days to reflect on what I was feeling.

There was a female at the party who I got the sense didn’t like me. When I approached her, she quickly said hi but then turned her back on me. Whenever I would speak, I caught her almost rolling her eyes at the things I would say. She kept physical distance from me the entire time, and it wasn’t long before I felt unwanted in her presence.

Naturally, I started to judge. “Who does this girl think she is?” I thought to myself. “She really is a bitch.”

A few days later, I realized that I had unknowingly given this woman the permission to make me feel inferior.

Her behavior towards me was intimidating, and I became defensive because of my own feelings about myself.

When I am honest with myself, I can recognize my insecurities during that party. The woman who was rude to me—was someone well-known to the rest of the people at the party. Perhaps I was insecure about the fact that this was the first time I was around this new group of friends. I was self-conscious about myself to the point that I took her dismissal of me as valid.

How many times are we quick to feel dismissed, judged or even wronged by the way other people treat us?

This is not to say that people who behave this way aren’t at fault. The truth is that there are people out there who intentionally seek to hurt and abuse others.

However, the point is that WE have the ability to overcome those feelings of being insecure and inferior.

When we are honest with ourselves, we come to recognize that inferiority and incompetence are emotions granted by us, with OUR permission.

Becoming conscious has enabled me to take personal experiences like this one and reflect on the power that I have within me. Feelings of not measuring up, incompetence and failure are all mental constructs that we create in our own minds.

Imagine if we were all able to rise above the mental limitations we place on our self-worth, and truly step into our greatness?

The possibilities are endless, friends. WE HAVE THE POWER TO SAY NO to insecurity and incompetence. Because we all are worthy, valuable and incredible in our own unique ways—if we give ourselves the permission to believe it.


How have YOU inadvertently given someone the permission to make you feel incompetent or inferior? Share some thoughts in the comments below!

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