We were getting out of the car the other day; Eilynn had just told me about a gold star she received at school as a result of being the “Class Leader of the Day.” I was deep in thought—and wanted to let her know how proud I was of her.
I opened the car door, and simply said- “Hey Eilynn…remember…” I couldn’t even finish the sentence, because she cut me off quickly and said, “I know, I know mom…hurry up.” My heart dropped.
“Hurry up? That’s what she thought I wanted to say to her?” In that moment, I was genuinely ashamed.
Mommas, how many times, does that simple phrase “hurry up” become the main request when speaking to our children?
“Hurry up and put on your shoes”
“Hurry up so we can get on the road”
“Hurry up, we’re going to be late for school”
“Hurry up and finish your dinner”
It was then, that I suddenly realized my daughter’s perception of me was that of a momma who is always in a rush.
Seriously—what’s the rush, mommas? Why are we in such a hurry to speed through life?
And, let’s be honest here—it’s typical. I recently aired a podcast addressing this ever-so-busy lifestyle that we have all adopted. We are in a constant state of GO-GO-GO from the moment we wake up to begin our days. We all lead prosperous lives filled with endless work, meetings, after school activities, parent-teacher conferences—the list goes on and on. It’s no wonder why most mommas complain about not having enough time in the day.
But, what message is this teaching my daughter–when she thinks that she must always hurry up?
What happens when she hurries up through her homework and doesn’t even grasp the lesson it’s supposed to teach her? What happens when she hurries through a tough decision that she needs to make and instead acts on impulse or emotion? What happens when she grows into another adult who never stops to give herself time?
I don’t know about you—but I’m tired of living a life where I’m constantly bombarded with schedules, time constraints and burnout. SLOWING down and taking time might be good for the soul.
On the podcast episode I mentioned above, I brought up my “1 hour early” strategy for slowing down and being more present on a daily basis. That’s what I’m hoping to achieve in life… more time to myself to be intentional and present…and not always hurrying up.
I want to teach my daughter that there is so much of life missed by always hurrying through it.
Mommas, let’s hurry up and slow down.
Mommas, what are you constantly in a rush for? Share some comments below! If you enjoyed this blog post, please share with a friend. Also– check out the podcast episode by clicking on the link above!