EP37: Finding the joy in where you’re at in motherhood
w/Sophia Martinez (Screws+Sparkles)
Sophia Martinez believes in the stay at home momma. So much so, that she has created a store dedicated to helping the stay at home momma with the side business have a space to sell their goods and products.
Candice and Sophia talk about the ambitious momma and what it looks like to pursue your passion projects despite what fears and other restraints that might be holding you back. Sophia gets honest as she shares her story of transitioning from a stay at home momma with a dream to sell refurnished furniture to a full-time business owner in the successful Screws + Sparkles store in Buckeye, AZ.
If you’re a creative with a dream of chasing that passion, this is the episode for you!
Connect with Sophia on social media @screwsandsparkles and in person at the store found at 425 Monroe Ave, Buckeye, AZ 85326.
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It’s a little after 4:30 on a Wednesday morning, and while the rest of us are sleeping comfortably in our beds, she is heading into a lake to swim and train for the next few hours. Never mind the fact that she just overcame a panic attack minutes before her first few swim strokes. She is focused and committed to preparing her body and mind for the biggest and most intense athletic competition she has ever done.
It’s been a year since she started training and completed her first half Ironman triathlon, and now Breann Meyer has begun round two of her training as she journeys toward completing a full Ironman competition.
You might be curious to find out just HOW and WHY she stays committed…. Spoiler alert: It’s her passion.
How would you define passion?
Passion clearly is the driving force behind Breann’s motivation for what she does when she trains for and completes the Ironman competitions. Breann describes passion as something that “energizes everything in your being.” When training for the Ironman half triathlon, Breann discovered that passion is a requirement for the sport. There are mental and physical challenges that one cannot get through without that clear passion.
“[Passion is] something in you that just makes you have that much love, that much feeling, that much drive and force inside of you….that it just makes you continue on doing what you’re doing.”
At what point did you realize that you were passionate for the sport?
Breann originally thought to herself, “I could never do that.” Having run a few smaller marathons here and there, Breann never really had her sights set on the official Ironman Triathlon. However, one day a work friend challenged her with the possibility of doing the competition. “I threw out all excuses when Jake approached me and I said, I’ve never done a triathlon, I don’t have a bike….” But the undiscovered passion deep inside Breann gave her the courage to take action.
It was October 2017 when Breann completed her first half Ironman triathlon, and the possibility of a full Ironman triathlon became even more of a reality. “When I woke up there after the half, and I was just laying there- like “I’m not sore at all…and if I just do this on my training and change this on my training…I’m gonna make it through the full…I’m gonna do even better and I’ll be able to finish the full”
She goes on to say “…after you’ve been through it, it gives you that passion to get out there and do it…if you felt the way you felt and you want to beat this time—that give you the passion to go out and push even harder, and train even harder, and run more miles and don’t give up and just keep going…”
Of course, there were some challenges that got in the way of Breann pursuing her passion. For instance, not being a morning person and having to wake up between 4:30 and 5 in the morning to train when the rest of the world was still sleeping. Additionally, having a family and balancing it all out. Breann attributes a lot of her success to the support of her husband, Matt, who helped take care of their 6-year-old daughter while Breann was away to train.
Then, there were the mental and physical challenges. “Having mental and physical breakdowns and trying to recoup from that to overcome it and push forward, and knowing that you can do it and go out there the next day to do your swim…[was a huge challenge].”
During the training process for the half, Breann suffered from knee problems that made it even more difficult to push through. She spent time in physical therapy and had to have her knee wrapped in order to compete in the competition.
It’s no secret that there were also mental challenges that Breann had to overcome. A fear of the lake was one of them.
“It’s crazy because your body can handle more than what your mind thinks you can…your mind goes against you constantly…”
An anxiety over swimming in the lake posed a problem for Breann while training, and she had to face her fears as she succumbed to panic attacks and mental breakdowns while preparing for the Ironman competition. So, while Breann was training her body physically for the triathlon, she was also training her MIND to ignore the doubt and anxiety that came with certain aspects of the competition.
“I had to get past my excuses [and challenges] for why I can’t do it…once I got past that, I was like—I can do this….I WANT to do this!”
“I went from ‘I will never do this again—no way—not a chance—this is not happening’—to waking up the next day, and being like, ‘I’m doing a full…I want to do this, I can do this’…and that’s just the passion in that”
Breann’s biggest support is her family and specifically her husband. Additionally, Breann surrounded herself around a support system of friends and peers who were on the same journey as her—training for the Ironman competition. “Going into something you’re not comfortable with, something you don’t know anything about…having the support of Jake to help me—how to change a tire if I get a flat and show me that, ‘cause I would have no idea…but having that support made it that much easier to help me out.”
She also found support in her family and friends during the competition when things got physically and mentally tough for her. “When you run past friends and family…it pushes you… but that just helps you because your mind is over it…your body is over it. But, when they cheer you on, it’s 5 seconds…but those 5 seconds means the world and it makes you feel like ‘alright, If I make it through the next 6 miles, I’ll get to see them again,’ you know…and that pushes you even more…that was a big support.”
Why do you compete in Ironman competitions?
At first response, Breann’s answer was “for myself, accomplishment, to challenge myself.” However, when reflecting on WHY she really does it, her answer landed on her daughter Maddie. “..You know you want to be a role model, right? So, whether it be school that you finish…this is also something big [that I’m doing] for her to see…she sees my dedication and sees my hard work and then she sees me finish…and she can see an outcome to all of that.”
Breann said it best—
“Your body can handle more than what your mind thinks you can.”
Pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone and winning the battle over your inner voice’s negativity and doubt. It takes drive, intention and passion to really go after your dreams…whatever they are. When it comes to getting started in a physical feat like a triathlon, Breann has figured it out. Your body is stronger than you think…ask Breann.
About Breann Meyer
Breann Meyer is a Phoenix-born and raised working momma in the Banking corporate world. She has a 6-year-old daughter, Maddie with her husband and reside in northwest Phoenix. She is an avid photographer who loves being creative and expressive during any down time. During her downtime and when not training, Breann spends time with family, taking Maddie to her extracurricular activities and being an awesome friend! You can follow her on Instagram @bresimjourney or her YouTube channel HERE.
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Pre-child, 25 years old and a manager in a corporate setting. It was 2011 and I was asked this question in a meeting by my boss at the time.
“What’s your Why?” He challenged us to find our why with the idea that “If your why doesn’t make you cry….find another why.”
It was the first time I heard the “Why” concept and I was intrigued. My why?…What was my Why? How do I find my Why? And—How does that relate to what I’m doing here….in a Corporate setting?
I’m a rules-follower, list-checker type of person… so of course my natural instinct was to explore more of what this Why was and how I could find one. I read books like this one, or this one. Listened to TED talks. Even journaled a bit in search of what my Why was.
Was it my Husband? My family? Myself? I was on a search of finding something I could call my Why.
Finding my Why required much more than text book reading and hours of watching TED talks. Because, when my boss was asking us for our Why….what he was really asking us to do, is to search for our purpose.
Why do I work as hard as I do? What drives me? What keeps me motivated? What is my purpose?
What I’ve learned over the years is that your purpose—your WHY— requires a lifelong pursuit of intention. Being intentional in what you do with your purpose (and WHY) in mind.
It’s a simple question to consider—What is your Why? Because your Why will compel you to work harder, fight for what you want and have the endurance to tackle all of the challenges that life throws your way.
I’ll have to share my personal story of my WHY at a later time. But, for you…here are some tips and advice on what you can do to get closer to identifying your Why.
Imagine your life exactly how you want it—WHO is there? For many people, their Why is a person (or people) who are their biggest support system. When you’ve identified WHO you are working so hard for, it’s easier to keep that in mind as you face challenges on your pathway to your ideal future.
Speaking of which, what is your ideal future? Think of what you are striving for in life….is it happiness? Close relationships and friendships? Is it success? Consider those questions and reflect on what your ideal future looks like. WRITE IT DOWN. Writing down your ideal future will put you one step closer to actually achieving it.
Think of your legacy. What do you want to be known for? Spend some time reflecting on the legacy you want to leave behind when you leave this Earth. When you’ve defined how you want to be remembered, your daily actions become much more purposeful.
It’s a great time to begin reflecting and narrowing down what your WHY and TRUE purpose is. I challenge YOU to start defining your WHY.
What is YOUR WHY? I’d love to hear from you– Share in the comments below.
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