One day in the near future, I will stand in my truth and proclaim that “I am worthy. I am enough.” The road to that day will be paved with challenges, triumphs, self-realizations and truths that I have to be willing to acknowledge and embrace. It’s going to take courage and belief in myself that I am doing what is best for me. I have to trust myself and trust the process, because Lord knows there will be challenges.

How can I expect to give my daughter the best of me if I myself am not whole? It’s a question that I was afraid to ask myself for the first 4 years of my daughter’s life.

Somewhere deep inside of my soul, was a longing to resolve anything that might stand in the way of giving my daughter 100% all of me.

The thing is, I had no idea what those unresolved matters were…but they were there. Like a shell’s hard layer, the unresolved issues were just one layer below.

They were there every time I refused to look myself in the mirror and love the woman I had become. Curves on my body that weren’t always there, wrinkles that would appear out of nowhere and a smile that I had a hard time accepting. It was there when I had second guesses about my own happiness and worth in my marriage with her father. It was there when I would cry myself to sleep in the middle of the night because I felt alone and dark. And it was also there when I would feel panic about my daughter finding out the ugly truth of my past…Those unresolved issues where there all along, but I was unwilling to accept them.

Instead, I spent the first 4 years of my daughter’s life ignoring the unresolved issues in my life. Blissfully unaware of the pain and ugliness that lived inside my soul.

Until the moment I realized that I was broken.

It was the night I crawled into bed with my daughter after an argument with my husband. I was upset. For so long, I thought the unhappiness came from my husband’s inability to show me appreciation. But, laying in the bed with my daughter and crying to her—I realized that it wasn’t my husband’s inability—rather MY own inability to love myself. Because, here I was crying on my four-year-old daughter’s shoulder—seeing the look of concern and worry in her little eyes while she was trying to console ME. I was broken. My daughter could see it…and that night—I could see it.

That was the night that I began the ascent into my awakening. My journey to finding out what was bothering ME. And why was I so upset and angry. I took pen to paper and began writing….

I started with my story. From the very beginning… and unleashed years of regret, anger, hurt, and pain that I had been ignoring since my early childhood.

It was empowering to recognize the feeling and emotions that I had not named before. I dove into hours of books, podcasts and genuine conversations to help me begin to become whole again. To fix those broken parts of me that were angry and upset all the time…

Since that night, I keep talking about my discovery of truths and emotional healing. When I was able to face my past and have the courage to question why I was hurt—a rush of relief washed over me.

I’m willing to bet we all have things that we need to heal from. Past hurts, heartbreaks and experiences that we try to hide from the outside world.

However, the moment you step into your truth and face your deepest soul aches is ultimately what will set you free and enable you to heal…thus, becoming whole.

Until then, I will keep writing…and soul searching…and learning from my past mistakes. And looking forward to the day where I can say and believe with all my heart that “I am enough.”

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  1. Yes, doing ‘the work’ can be daunting because it’s like pulling back the curtain on things that have been unattended to for so long. You know behind the curtain is some ugly shit. But just the act of grabbing the veil and courageously opening up the past is what begins the journey to restoration, understanding, forgiveness and ultimately what you write about….the truth. And for me, the truth wasn’t as awful as I made it up to be. The more i looked at it, the more it made sense. And the understanding that it was meant to actually bring me to a place of freedom, helped me to release the resentment, bitterness, regret and shame that I carried for way too long. I’m applauding your decision to unapologetically tell your story. Your readers (definitely including me) will reap the wisdom and courage to face our own skeletons.

    1. YES @Keo! So funny you bring that up– you are right… the truth is NOT as ugly as my mind and heart lead me to believe. Thank you for the kind words– We all are helping each other…”It takes a village”- that’s for sure.

  2. This was beyond amazing!!! Thank you for sharing this. I have been feeling the same way lately and I actually just got home and broke down in tears because I feel so overwhelmed, confused and truthfully broken. I cried out to GOD to help me understand. I am also going through The transition of healing myself. Thank you for opening up I needed to read this.

    1. @Pariz, your soul is calling out for you to explore more of your heart. You may feel broken, but you aren’t done. Asking myself “why” and being curious about my feelings and emotions is what helped me uncover the truth. I’ll be cheering you on and here to support you as you being unpacking YOUR truth, girl– and begin your healing process!